I am the youngest among my siblings and being the youngest in a family has its own pros and cons. To be younger means you get most of the love and affection from your parents and siblings. It also takes a lot of responsibilities away from you as you are considered younger. It also helps a lot for being the youngest to learn a lot from the mistakes that are made by your elders.
On the other hand, being the youngest also has its demerits i.e. your opinion might not have that much weight even if what you say has a solid point. It makes you feel ignored or not heard. Getting more attention from your parents might bring up some jealousy for the older ones and they might bully you for it. Being the youngest you might be your parent’s favorite but you might not be your sibling’s favorite. One might face unreasonable teasing, unjustified beating, and non-serious accusations.
Same is what I experienced when I was a kid. None of my siblings would ever take me seriously. I got beaten up so many times and I think they considered it to be normal. When I use to tell my parents about it, they would punish them or ground them but still, these scars get fresh whenever I remember that time. But my parents loved me a lot.
My Misery As A Kid
There are so many things that I want to write about but one thing that I hated the most was that I got mocked all the time by them calling me names. It started from my name and then names to point out my defects. I think it is OK to tell someone about his flaws and defects with good intentions. But by calling out names to make someone feel bad, is not a work of a humble person.
When I was a kid I had an accident where I fell on my face and got my teeth broken in the shape of a triangle, I know it sounds funny but it made me a laughing stock by calling my name on my teeth. It started with my siblings, then my cousins started to call me names and so my friends at school. I was humiliated and disgusted by the thoughts that why would any brother or sister do that to their siblings? But I took the burden and carried on with whatever my siblings, cousin or school friends would say! Luckily it didn’t take long until my Parents intervened and gradually the curse of this name calling mockery was lifted.
But those who wanted to offend me continued doing it on some other subjects. While growing up, I started ignoring them. I grew up open minded and started taking things on lighter notes. I guess it made me cooler in my social circle. When I ignored them and did not care about whatever they said, what may have hurt them more.
Being a Muslim and a father to two little girls, it is my utmost duty to tell my children what Islam is all about and what does our creator says about calling names in Quran and our Prophet Muhammad PBUH says about it.
O you who have believed, let not a people ridicule [another] people; perhaps they may be better than them, nor let women ridicule [other] women; perhaps they may be better than them. And do not insult one another and do not call each other by [offensive] nicknames. Wretched is the name of disobedience after [one’s] faith. And whoever does not repent – then it is those who are the wrongdoers. [Hujurat 49:11]
Prophet Muhammad PBUH, said, “The believer does not taunt others, he does not curse others, he does not use profanity, and he does not abuse others.” [Tirmidhi – 1977]
It is permissible in Islam to call each other with good nicknames that’s do not offend others.
Prophet Muhammad PBUH used to call his companions with lovely nickname following are some examples. Prophet PBUH gave Abu Bakr RA the nickname “Atiq” meaning the one who was saved from hell. Umar “al-Faruq” meaning the one who distinguishes between the truth and the wrong. Usman RA “Zhun-Nurayn” meaning having two lights, because he married two daughters of the Prophet PBUH. Ali RA “Abu Turab” meaning father of soil and Khalid bin Walid RA “Saifullah” meaning sword of Allah.